This isn’t appropriate for all situations, but sometimes the easiest thing to do is make a request of the person shoveling the sh*t your way. When I didn’t take the vibrational bait he turned on his heels and slammed the door behind him.īecause peace and love can’t hang with anger and hate for very long. He paused for my response, which I think I said something to acknowledge that I heard him. And I exhaled that breath I’d taken to let him have it, and instead let him continue his tirade for another minute.Īnd that’s about all it took for him to realize I wasn’t going to join him in this “upset” energy. He’s the one who’s mad – I don’t have to join him in it. I was having a perfectly nice day – why would I ruin it? This isn’t even mine. I was starting to get hot, too (“I didn’t deserve this! What’s wrong with him?”), and I took a breath to fire back – but in that breath I had a flash of insight: this isn’t how I want to feel. One day I was having a perfectly lovely afternoon when a boyfriend walked through my door in an exceptionally angry state of mind. I can’t remember what he was so mad about, but it was definitely directed at me.Īs he ranted about whatever he was so upset about, I felt my blood pressure rising. They’ll make their exit soon enough if you can maintain your good vibe. Remember how you want to feel and keep your thoughts focused where they serve you. There’s this thing called entrainment, where someone who is strongly committed to a particular vibration can sweep others up in it. Just let them be (maybe even love them for it) and follow the next tip:ĭon’t let them sway you to the dark side. So don’t exert a lot of effort trying to convince them life is good. So best advice is to remember that we don’t all have to agree, and your good vibe doesn’t depend on theirs. In the interests of not offering resistance, you might even try “loving this about them.” You know we practice that with our own self-love (loving the ‘unlovable’)? It can be a transformational experiment to practice embracing them with their negativity and all.Īfter all, you know why we love Oscar the Grouch, Grumpy Cat, and Up’s ornery old guy so much? Because they’re rather entertaining when we know they can’t hurt us. But if that doesn’t feel fab, try the next suggestion:īecause we know the power of thoughts, we’re often tempted to help friends and loved ones switch out of their negative mindset. Often this is the path of least resistance that we don’t even consider choosing. to create time away from the draining colleague. If you’re stuck at work with a co-worker who brings you down, I know people who have employed ear buds, strategic turning of chairs, adjusted schedules, etc. You can even minimize time spent with family members who are chronic complainers. You can end friendships or romances that require more work to stay in positive territory than it’s worth. Sometimes it’s as easy as choosing not to interact with the negative nelly in your life. In fact, if we spend too much time doing that, we may end up as discouraged as they are. We all know how wearing it can be to try to help a faultfinder see things differently. … it’s good for a conscious creator to know how to handle that kind of input. a friend with a habit of judging and criticizing ….a co-worker who can’t stop complaining, or.a spouse gifted at seeing what’s gone wrong when you’re trying to be optimistic, or.Since it’s such a common question, I wanted to address it again. In fact, you guys gave great advice for how to handle that in this Q&A post from last year. It’s something we’ve all run into before, I suspect. People regularly ask how to keep others from bringing you down when you’re trying to hold a good vibe.
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